A mom-to-be receives lots of support and advice. However, the future dad is often left in the dark. Here’s some father-to-father coaching that can help you prepare a game plan.
The Dad-To-Be in the First Trimester
- Do your homework. Watching a game is fine, but during commercials, pick up your wife’s baby book and read the most important parts. Do so to be able to discuss it intelligently with the future mom. She will be impressed.
- Don’t be afraid to talk about your experience with other guys who’ve been there. Another dad can give you valuable suggestions on how to offer support to your wife during pregnancy. Plus, they might even offer you a drink.
- Be there for her. Even if you don’t like going to the doctor’s office, do it. Remember, that love hurts. Also, pay attention to the things the doctor says.
- Make plans. You may be lucky enough to receive paid paternity leave. If not, plan to take a few days off so that you can help your wife and get to know your baby. You’ll find it worthwhile
- Do have big discussions now. If you want to influence how things are done with your kid, now’s the time to talk. Discuss options with your wife and her doctor. You can even help your wife decide if you will bank the baby’s cord blood or donate it. It is also time to decide if you will circumcise your son or choose between breast and bottle feeding.
- Think about money. You can do some useful things like writing your will, buying a bigger life insurance policy, and starting a college savings plan.
- Help your wife get ready for the big event. It’s not at all certain that the baby will arrive on schedule. Assemble the crib and install the car seat in the minivan. If you don’t have a minivan, now’s the time to get one.
- Think about money. Again. This is what every dad should do. Assess your financial situation, then try to set aside an emergency reserve account that will help you meet three to six months of living expenses. Add your offspring to your employee healthcare benefits plan.
- Help your wife with packing her birth bag. After she’s packed her essentials, see if there’s room for snacks, a camera, a spare phone charger, the cord blood collection kit, reading material, and a comfy pillow. If there’s no room, pack your own suitcase as you may have to spend some time in the hospital.